Family Recovery & Healing
If you are reading this, you are likely exhausted.
You have watched someone you love unravel through harmful addictions and destructive behaviors. You have picked up the pieces. You have protected the children. You have absorbed the lies, the instability, the financial strain, the broken promises.
And perhaps the hardest part of all — they are still not ready to get help.
We need you to hear this clearly:
You no longer have to sit helplessly while your family falls apart.
At Deslongchamps Recovery, our Family Recovery & Healing Program offers the same level of care, program options, therapeutic depth, and healing solutions that we offer to the primary client.
You can participate:
With your loved one
Or without them
The healing of your family does not have to wait for the person who is self-destructing.
Addiction Is Not Genetic Destiny — It Is Unresolved Trauma
There is no “addiction gene” passed down like eye color.
What gets passed down is unresolved trauma.
Not every child who experiences trauma becomes addicted.
But every person struggling with addiction has experienced trauma.
Trauma is not only abuse. It can be:
Emotional neglect
Chronic stress in the home
Walking on eggshells
A parent physically present but emotionally unavailable
Growing up in unpredictability
Feeling unseen, unheard, or unsafe
Even in loving families, trauma can occur. A child does not think:
“Mom is overwhelmed.”
“Dad is struggling.”
They think:
“I must not matter.”
“I am alone.”
“It’s my fault.”
Children survive by adapting:
Becoming hyper-responsible
Becoming invisible
Suppressing emotions
Developing anxiety, shame, or perfectionism
Numbing their feelings
These adaptations protect them in childhood.
But if left unaddressed, those same adaptations can evolve into addiction, compulsive behaviors, or self-destruction later in life.
The cycle does not break by hoping.
It breaks by intervening.
You Do Not Have to Wait for Them to Be Ready
If you cannot save your loved one from their self-destruction right now, you can still save the rest of your family.
Everyone has suffered enough.
We understand something many programs do not openly acknowledge:
Addiction is a deeply sensitive internal wound.
It carries shame, embarrassment, and profound emotional pain.
Your loved one may appear selfish. They may even take offense at the idea of you getting help.
But often, it is not cruelty. It is pain.
When someone is consumed by addiction, their need to soothe that internal wound overrides everything — even the people they love most. They are not trying to hurt you. They simply cannot see beyond their own pain.
That does not mean the family must continue suffering.
It is important to prioritize the family system.
Yes, it is heartbreaking if someone refuses treatment.
But it is even more heartbreaking to watch your children grow up inside chaos.
If you are worried about how your loved one will react to your family seeking help, we will walk you through that process.
And if you are a spouse who cannot yet leave or access support for yourself, please — at minimum — protect the children. Put them into the program.
When your children begin healing, everything shifts.
When the Family Heals, the Dynamic Changes
Addiction creates a destructive status quo:
Chaos becomes normal
Walking on eggshells becomes routine
Enabling feels like survival
Silence becomes protection
When the family system begins healing — even without the addicted individual — something powerful happens:
Boundaries become clearer
Emotional regulation improves
Children feel safer
Shame begins to loosen
Strength replaces helplessness
When the family changes, the environment changes.
And often — not always, but often — the struggling loved one feels that shift.
But even if they do not:
Your children deserve safety.
Your children deserve stability.
Your children deserve a future free from inherited trauma.
They are the next generation.
Role-Playing Therapy at Deslongchamps Recovery
Role-play exercises are a cornerstone of our individual and family work.
This is not theatrical.
It is clinical.
It is evidence-based.
Research in:
Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
Motivational Interviewing
Family Systems Therapy
shows that structured role-play strengthens:
Emotional regulation
Communication skills
Empathy
Accountability
Relapse-prevention strategies
When you role-play, you are not just talking about change.
You are practicing it.
Neuroscience shows that experiential learning activates the same neural pathways used in real-life conflict and stress. When a difficult moment happens at home, your brain is not scrambling — it has rehearsed a healthier response.
Families gain perspective.
Many people do not realize how their tone, silence, anger, or withdrawal affects others. Role-play allows family members to step into each other’s experiences — not to assign blame — but to build understanding.
What happened in the past cannot be undone.
But what happens next can be changed.
Activity Scheduling & Behavioral Activation
Healing the Whole Family System
Addiction creates crisis-mode living.
Spouses often remain in chronic emotional survival states — sad, angry, disappointed, exhausted — because they have carried the weight for so long.
Behavioral Activation helps spouses:
Rebuild identity beyond crisis management
Step out of chronic emotional exhaustion
Re-engage in meaningful, restorative activities
Remember who they are outside of the chaos
For children, structure equals safety.
When families implement predictable, healthy routines:
Nervous systems calm
Trust slowly rebuilds
Stability returns
Emotional security strengthens
Consistency heals.
Predictability restores safety.
A 360° Approach — With or Without the Addicted Loved One
Most programs that mention “family support” do so to support the individual in recovery.
Our commitment is different.
We offer a complete, structured, therapeutic pathway for families — whether the addicted loved one participates or not.
Because we know what the alternative looks like.
We have lived it.
We have treated it.
We have studied it.
We created Deslongchamps Recovery because families deserve more than survival.
They deserve healing.
You Do Not Have to Gamble With Your Children’s Future
You may be asking:
“What if they never agree to treatment?”
Then you heal anyway.
You strengthen anyway.
You protect your children anyway.
Waiting for someone else to change before you seek help is how cycles continue for generations.
Interrupt the cycle.
Get your family the help it needs now — before the damage becomes the next generation’s burden.
At Deslongchamps Recovery, we are not only focused on saving the individual.
We are committed to saving the family.